You didn't even show up to the funeral or to her house for condolences. You don't know what happened during those months to your friends. Then you come back with no explanation like nothing happened. You blow them off to do lord knows what for months. One of which is my cousin who was complaining about how her friends weren't very understanding or as nice to her anymore. My problem lies with people who ghost for MONTHS at a time but then continually try to come back into your life only to ghost again. It is rude if there wasn't a right or anything prior but it is what it is. If you just disappear suddenly and don't respond again. I know exactly what you mean by ghosting, OP. but you can't show up to something that YOU planned/wanted to do months ago? We could have plans that we planned months ago and all were pulling money into. Once a month? We live in the same state but different cities for college but we would make sure to meet sometimes. What type of person will disappear for months at a time without texting their friends and expect to be welcomed back with open arms? Then have the audacity to do it constantly? Not only that but she'd blow us off to hang with her man who she saw everyday.
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I know that folks will say that were needy, high maintenance, and blah. she left the group chat all huffy and no one added her back. Not even 3 months later she gets a new man and did the same thing. So someone added her back and told her they weren't attacking her. It was a cycle and most of the people in the group voiced their concerns and how they disliked that.
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Then whenever they went through relationship problems she'd crawl back to us and trash talk him. In one of my friend groups there was always one girl who would ghost everyone when she got a man. I won't keep letting you come in and out of my life. Sometimes she still tries to meet up but that door is closed. I told her that I found it disrespectful and that this friendship won't work.
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It would've costed you nothing to say "I'm not feeling well, I'll get back to you guys when I can." And leave it at that. But that doesn't mean that you can treat people any type of way you want and expect them to be there when you come back. The first few times I was understanding then it got old. She'd disappear for weeks or months at a time and then COMEÄ«ACK talking about her mental health and all that.